People love Taraji P. Henson! She’s got beauty and brains and is funny. That’s why it was disheartening for fans to hear that the almost married actress ended her engagement with her longtime boyfriend, former NFL player Kelvin Hayden. But just because she’s back on the market does not mean that it’s going to be easy for the next man, as she’s making it very clear… step correctly!
The “What Men Want” actress shared the news last year while on The Breakfast Club that things between the two didn’t work out. “I tried. I was, like, ‘Therapy. Let’s do the therapy thing,’” said the actress. “But if you’re both not on the same page with that then you feel like, you’re taking it on yourself, and that’s not a fair position for anybody to play in a relationship.”
Henson revealed that they each needed to work on one another’s happiness, and on a recent Extra interview also expressed that dating was the “furthest thing from her mind.”
“I don’t mean that in a negative way, but I’ve always been the type of woman that when I get out of a relationship, I need to process,” Henson stated. “We were going to get married! That was five years of my life. I don’t just go, ‘Ohhhh. Okay. Next.’ I can’t, and I’m not judging — that’s just my process.”
When the time is right and she feels that she’s ready go date again, whoever is trying to court her must know one thing. She’s serious and has no time for the games.
“I’m a grown woman so ‘dating and let’s just see’ –those days are over. If there’s nothing on this finger, if this finger’s naked, no one gets claimed,” she said in an interview on the Steve Harvey Show. “You don’t get claimed until you claim me. Period. You don’t get to say, ‘I dated Taraji P. Henson.’
She added, “You don’t get to go on the red carpet and share that part of my life with me because now, today with social media, it’s not private. I have a son and I don’t want them to be like ‘mom dated that one and this and this’…I can’t do that. I can’t afford that because then when I do meet the one, he’s gonna be like, ‘you were a ho, you been with this one, this one, this one’…I can’t do that.”
Just in case her point wasn’t made clear enough, Henson clarified to Steve: “If you’re not serious, don’t even open your mouth. Shake my hand and keep it moving. I’ve accomplished so much in my life and right now, I just want someone to share it with.”
We hear that!