The standards for dating vary depending on who you ask. For many its purely financial however, and conversations are always happening about just how much money men and women should have while trying to date. In the growing age of independence, women are realizing that while they like to have their own, they have no desire to take care of someone else. Men have realized too that the money women are independent the less they should require men to buy everything. However Lil Duval things this logic is not sound, as he feels that women are not truly as financial stable as society likes us to believe.
Tokyo Vanity has been discussing this very topic in a series of tweets that she has also been posting to her Instagram. In them, she discusses the pressure of being the financially successful one in a relationship and the unnecessary pressures of having to take care of your partner if they are less financially stable than you. “Can we normalize dating ppl within your budget” she asks her followers. “Stop getting mad cause a person want to date a person with the same financial freedom as them.” She captioned the post saying “Women with money still want to feel taken care of. Men with money like gifts too.”
Can we normalize dating ppl within your budget. Stop getting mad cause a person want to date a person with the same financial freedom as them. No one wants a one sided relationship! Women w/ money still want to feel taken care of. Men w/ money like gifts too.— JERRY SPRINGER (@TOKYOxVANITY) July 14, 2021
People in the comments seemed to agree, with many relaying that they are now realizing dating should not always be a battle of who can take care of who. “HELLO!!!!!! I’d rather not change my lifestyle to accommodate someone else’s. It’s called being evenly yolked…spiritually, mentally AND FINANCIALLY!” commented one follower.
In a separate post Tokyo addresses some of the those opposed to her philosophy and explained that some people do not understand the difference between understanding/compromise and being desperate.
The problem is a lot of people don’t know the difference between understanding/compromising & being desperate ! 🤷🏾♀️— JERRY SPRINGER (@TOKYOxVANITY) July 15, 2021
Lil Duval chimed in on the topic. In his own response he said “If men only dated within their finacial range we wouldn’t have much to choose from” followed by several laughing emojis. Duval’s comment drew some criticism from people who felt he was dismissing the amount of successful women in the world for the sake of a laugh.
See responses below:
the avg income of black men in America is less than 45k— ⓛⓔⓔⓚ (@leeky_luciano) July 15, 2021
aint no way this nigga straight, aint no way. get on the internet to complain about every aspect of a woman https://t.co/tlgkiZx678— messy sagittarius (@himynameisyaya) July 16, 2021
but you can choose from the men who in your pay range… go get you a breadwinner. https://t.co/tlgkiZx678— messy sagittarius (@himynameisyaya) July 16, 2021
Because the gals with coin don’t want you https://t.co/vUFOZrZaCg— JoJo Suya (@eleven8) July 15, 2021