We all know of all the egregious troubles and allegations that surround the conflicted superstar R. Kelly. Kelly is currently serving time in federal prison, but perhaps could have gotten a bit of mental help prior to serving time by a woman who quite a few people can say has “fix(ed) my life.”
Iyanla Vanzant, professional motivational speaker and spiritual advisor to many, has revealed that she had the opportunity to advise and work with R. Kelly, but she ultimately decline. During an interview with The Breakfast Club, she mentions that the “I’m Your Angel” singer would have to want to get their healing. “I’m very clear about mental imbalance when I see it,” said Vanzant. “I’m very clear about distortion in energy when I see it. Not that I won’t work with it but you’ve got to own it. And I’m very clear when somebody’s coming to me to tell their story, not to get healing.
“I don’t process stories,” she continued. “I do the healing and I don’t think he was ready. He’s still in denial. Just the mere fact that he was making demands of how he wanted this thing to happen. And I’m like, ‘I ain’t on that committee brother.’”
Host Angela Yee then asked Vanzant what type of demands the singer might have had in order to be on the show, she said that he wanted her to come to him and she does not operate that way. “I’m not coming to you, you come to me. Iyanla Vanzant ain’t coming to you boo,” she emphatically stated. “Not because I’m Iyanla Vanzant but because doctors don’t make house calls anymore. And he needed emergency triage at this point.”
Vanzant gave further details in an interview with ABC News Radio and shared that she didn’t believe that Kelly was ready. “R. Kelly reached out to Fix My Life, long before this documentary was ever done,” she shared. “He didn’t meet one of the criteria that we had for guests. Are they willing? Are they ready? Do they have the capacity to do the work? He didn’t have it, the emotional capacity. He just didn’t have it, and I knew, based on what I was looking at…the paces I would have had to take him through, it would have been brutal. He didn’t have the capacity because he hasn’t done the work.”
Vanzant then said that simply putting Kelly behind bars was not going to be the “healing” that he needs. “I would never, ever condone or justify anything that he’s been accused of doing,” she admits. “But locking him up in jail is not the answer … he’s sick … Just like the people he allegedly committed these acts with — they’re sick. This needs to be massive healing — them, him all of them.
She continued, “But I do know, without some long-term intervention, he doesn’t have the capacity. Just wouldn’t be able to hear it, receive it. Classic thing is that he’s not telling the truth about it.”