From the time that Jaden and Willow Smith entered the world, it was evident that the two were of a different breed. Gifted, eccentric, and intelligent are some of the things that come to mind when thinking of the Smith children. Another thing that comes to mind is the “free-range” they have, as it’s been no secret they’ve been raised to be independent thinkers. The older they get and more mature, the more vocal and forward they are about what goes on in their lives, both to their parents and the public.
Although often praised for the “freedom of expression” they exude, their father Will may think they have “made a mistake”. “I think we might have gone too far,” the Bad Boys for Life star jokingly said in an interview with BBC Radio 1Xtra in 2016. “There’s a really powerful internal quality as an artist that as parents we encourage. You gotta get out on the edge. You have to try things. You have to be comfortable doing things people don’t agree with, and you have to be comfortable doing things that you could fail.”
The 2x Oscar nominee, who also has an older son Trey Smith from a previous marriage, continued speaking on parenting his children at the time, including then 15-year-old Willow and the struggles of juggling raising a young teen woman versus young men. “As a father, and the time I spend with the boys, when they go out, they’re with six or seven dudes, right? So they have a small army when they go out,” the actor said. “So their freedom is slightly different from Willow’s. Willow’s a 15-year-old girl, so we try to have the same rules, but it’s a different world, you know? So we’ve been struggling with that.”
Growing up in the Smith household is without a doubt, an out of the ordinary experience. With both parents being top-billing actors and media personalities, their personal lives are constantly under public scrutiny. Wife Jada Pinkett Smith has spoken openly about their marriage and relationship on many occasions, amidst long-standing rumors of an “open marriage”. “Will and I have decided to even throw away the concept of marriage,” Pinkett Smith shared on Red Table Talk alongside her husband. “It’s a life partnership in the sense that we created a foundation together that we know is for this lifetime.” Smith then adds, “There’s nothing that could happen that we won’t be together and love each other.”
The Girls Trip actress also touched on monogamy, saying “I think about [monogamy] a lot with married women who are in this sexual monotony of feeling like this obligation toward having to have sex because they are in a monogamous relationship. Sometimes you just don’t feel like it.” Her mother, Adrienne “Gammy” Banfield-Norris agreed with Jada stating “It seems like such an unrealistic expectation to put on a human being.”
Well, they are not the only ones who feel as though monogamy isn’t for them, as now 19-year-old Willow has come forward with her thoughts on the matter during the latest episode of their Facebook Watch series which focused on unconventional relationships. “I really couldn’t see myself in a quadruple, but personally, male and female — that’s all I need,” she states.
“I love men and women equally and so I would definitely want one man, one woman,” explains Willow after being asked how she would see the dynamics of gender in a throuple. “I feel like I could be polyfidelitous with those two people.”
She further explains that she is not interested in the constant chase of new sexual experiences, but rather chooses to focus on the emotional connection. Her grandmother admits the idea of her granddaughter being in a polyamorous relationship “doesn’t sit well with her”, however she has the support of her mother Jada, who encourages her to experiment in life in attempts to know who you are.
Willow continued on with her opinions on the subject. “This is the scariest thought that people shy away from,” she admits. “It’s the feeling of feeling like the person that you love is falling in love with somebody else. And that insecurity and fear just eats us alive. But that insecurity and fear is something that we need to overcome and something that we need to evolve out of and transmute that into something new and different that can actually be helpful and make us love more and more freely. And monogamy,” she continued, “I feel, actually inhibits you from learning those skills of evolving past those feelings of insecurity and jealousy.”